To say that our little girl can be intense is quite an understatement. In fact, she is intense about everything she does. When she laughs, she really laughs. When she cries, she really, really cries. And when she wants something, there is no mistake about it, you will know. Not surprisingly, intensity is one of the first features Dr. Sears lists for high need babies.
When Livi was born, we learned right away that it was best to respond to her cries quickly, otherwise she would go into a complete meltdown.
For the first six months of her life, we did not know why our little girl was crying so much. Was something wrong with her? Were we doing something wrong?
We tried a lot of different things. I am breastfeeding her and so I went on an elimination diet, cutting out dairy, soy, tomatoes, leafy greens, and more. We tried out bouncy chairs, baby carriers, car rides, long walks, music, white noise, other noise. We gave her infant gas drops and gripe water. Nothing seemed to do the trick.
We visited her pediatrician often, exhausted and worried. A few months after he birth, she was diagnosed with reflux and put on medication. Sometimes it seemed to help, most of the time it made no difference.
Finally, we found out that she might be a high need baby. But we had no idea what that meant or why she was this way. We needed to know. And even more importantly, we needed to find out how we could make things easier for her and for us.