Silent Reflux

Babies cry, especially during the first few months of their lives. It is their way of communicating. Whether they are hungry or lonely or have a full diaper, crying is how they let us know that they need us.

Some are also plagued by gas in their tummy, which is painful and upsets them. Others suffer from reflux and spit up a lot.

Livi did not have an easy start in that regard. As a high need baby, she already cried a lot more than other babies. But she was also unfortunate enough to struggle with a gassy tummy and reflux. Both seemed to upset her more than other babies and perhaps this was also due to her high need nature, I am not sure.

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Bad Habits

HandsWhen you are a new parent, people will tell you not to start any bad habits with your child. Do not nurse or rock or walk her to sleep. Do not hold him too much. Do not pick her up every time she cries. And on and on and on.

But when you have a high need baby and it is midnight and your child has been crying since six in the evening, you are ready to do whatever it takes to get your child to sleep.

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On Being A Stay At Home Mom

I always wanted a career. I always wanted children. But I could never quite figure out how to do it all.

Part-time work, day care at the office, stay at home dad? Nothing seemed quite right. Being a stay at home mom honestly never even crossed my mind. My husband, on the other hand, was more than eager to be the stay at home parent, at least theoretically.

In the end, everything worked itself out. The economy tanked and when I got pregnant, my husband was the one with the bigger paycheck. Since I wanted to nurse, it made sense that I would be the one staying at home in the beginning. Eventually, we would look for a good day care.

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Mrs. Sparkly’s Ten Commandments Award

This post is long overdue. A huge thank you to Oster’s Mom from discover and devour for giving me “Mrs. Sparkly’s Ten Commandments Award.” Given the name of the award, I simply had to find out more about it.

Apparently, it has to do with a woman of the same name, known for being very elegant and having high expectations, who is committed to maintaining integrity, good manners and behavior, as well as a rich sense of humor. So there you have it.

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The High Need Baby: Sleep Problems

Sleeping BabySleep or lack thereof is a big topic in our house. It would be impossible to cover it all in one post. So I am just going to start at the beginning…

It has always been difficult for Livi to fall asleep and to stay asleep. Judging from how active she was in my belly when I was pregnant, I think she even had trouble sleeping back then.

I mentioned before that she was a hyperactive baby. Now she is a very busy toddler and even more active than ever before. That very same characteristic is what makes it so hard for her to calm down at bedtime.

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What Makes A Dad

I always adored my dad. I lost him way too young when I was 19 and I miss him every year. Some years are easier than others, but it is never easy. Since Livi was born, it has been more difficult. I wish he could see her grow up. I wish she would get to know him and not just hear stories.

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Livi adores her dad. I could not ask for a better father for my little girl. Her excitement when he comes home in the evening and the pure joy on his face when they spend time together are beautiful to watch.

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Happy Father’s Day to my dad and to my husband! And Happy Father’s Day to all you dads out there!

Dad and Daughter

What Makes A Dad

God took the strength of a mountain,
The majesty of a tree,
The warmth of a summer sun,
The calm of a quiet sea,

The generous soul of nature,
The comforting arm of night,
The wisdom of the ages,
The power of the eagle’s flight,

The joy of a morning in spring,
The faith of a mustard seed,
The patience of eternity,
The depth of a family need,

Then God combined these qualities,
When there was nothing more to add,
He knew His masterpiece was complete,
And so, He called it … Dad

Author Unknown

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Flickr Photo by Peter Werkman

The Pacifier Saga

PacifierAs a baby, Livi could not care less about pacifiers. We had waited to establish breastfeeding before we offered her one, but when we did, she actually turned her face away.

We tried a few more times without success. I think I managed to put one in her mouth twice – while she was sleeping – only to have her push it out right away.

So after a while we gave up. We had hoped that she would take the pacifier and then magically turn into one of those happy babies you see on TV. You know, the ones who peacefully sleep as soon as you put them in their crib … but alas it was not meant to be. Continue reading