Most of my posts highlight the challenges I encounter(ed) while raising a high need baby and now toddler. It may seem that all I do is complain about my life or that I am ungrateful for my little girl. But both could not be further from the truth.
There are several reasons why I choose to emphasize the difficult parts on my blog:
- When I was a new parent and did not know why my baby was crying all the time and always seemed fussy and unhappy, I found so much comfort and relief when I read that there were other parents with similar experiences. I hope to give at least some parents with a high need baby that same relief.
- While most of my posts are recounts of my experiences with Livi, I also try to include ideas and strategies that worked for us and those that did not so that other parents can try them as well. When Livi was little, I was thankful for any ideas provided by other parents of high need children, no matter how obvious, because there comes a point when you cannot think straight anymore.
- I also felt very isolated in the beginning because there was no one around who had a high need baby or who at least had heard of it. Having to explain it over and over and still getting blank looks or disbelief was very frustrating. I want to show other parents that what they are experiencing is very real and that they are not alone.
- Finally, unless someone writes about the “ugly truth,” the rough nights, the seemingly constant crying, and all the other things typical for a high need baby, many parents will not even know what they are facing. Not every pediatrician will talk about high need babies or give advice. And so many parents, especially those who are parents for the first time, will doubt themselves and become frustrated with the experience. I hope to at least reach some of them with my posts.
HOWEVER, only blogging about the dark side makes for a very depressing blog. So now that I can see a (faint) light at the end of the tunnel as Livi is getting older and settling nicely into toddlerhood, I will try to include more of the positives we experience. Of course, I will also keep writing about the challenging experiences as there are many more stories left to tell.
For now, here are a few of my lighter posts:
- 10 Things I Love About My High Need Baby Part 1 and Part 2
- Baby Sign Language
- A Newly Discovered Love For Books
- The Pacifier Saga