We all know days like these, when things keep piling up and worry seems to overtake us. One thing after another goes wrong and pretty soon we hit a wall.
The last few days, really weeks, have been like this for me. Livi is having (more) trouble sleeping again and I worry that she is not getting as much sleep as she needs. And she is still not showing much interest in finger foods, which also worries me.
Add to this her newly discovered, short but intense temper tantrums, her fussiness, and her clinginess, and I cannot help but feel overwhelmed by it all.
Which problem do I tackle first? How do I deal with it? And what do I do if I cannot take care of it myself or things get worse? When these questions keep my mind busy, I know it is time to do something and sort things out.
Below are a few of the steps I take to stop feeling overwhelmed and get things done.
- Try and get some perspective
Take a deep breath, take a step back, and look at the whole picture. Is it really that bad or does it only seem that way because you are tired and exhausted. Try to look at your problems objectively. Are they only small hiccups and a normal part of life? Are other aspects of your life going really well? Most of the time, looking at the whole picture will make you realize that things are not as bad as the seem.
- Talk it out
Find someone to talk to about your problems. Whether it is your spouse, mother, sister, or best friend, talking to someone helps to put things in perspective. Most of the time you will feel better and often you will even find solutions to your problems that you may not have thought of yourself.
- Write it down
Writing down what bothers you can be very therapeutic. Whether it is in a journal, an email, or a blog, writing it out almost forces you to look at it all from a different angle. And getting it all off your chest will make you feel better, too
When you choose to blog about the problems you face, you will also have the added benefit of an online community that can offer solutions and support.
- Take a break and relax
Taking a break is important in today’s life. We are constantly busy “getting things done.” We forget to breath and actually live. Do something nice for yourself. A bubble bath, a massage, or a meditation can do wonders and make you feel refreshed. If you need a break but cannot get away, sit back and watch your child play or go for a walk with the stroller.
Something I really like to use are the guided relaxations by Andrew Johnson. It is not for everybody but they seem to help me immensely.
- Find solutions
Finally, once you have taken a step back and calmed down, start looking for solutions. You may find a simple answer to your problems or at least realize that the problem is really not as bad as it seems.
What do you do when you feel overwhelmed? What helps you the most? And how do you handle days when everything seems to go wrong. And if you have any tips on how to get a reluctant and headstrong toddler interested in (even trying) finger foods, I would be very thankful.