For the first six months of her life, we did not know why our little girl was crying so much. Was something wrong with her? Were we doing something wrong?
We tried a lot of different things. I am breastfeeding her and so I went on an elimination diet, cutting out dairy, soy, tomatoes, leafy greens, and more. We tried out bouncy chairs, baby carriers, car rides, long walks, music, white noise, other noise. We gave her infant gas drops and gripe water. Nothing seemed to do the trick.
We visited her pediatrician often, exhausted and worried. A few months after he birth, she was diagnosed with reflux and put on medication. Sometimes it seemed to help, most of the time it made no difference.
Finally, we found out that she might be a high need baby. But we had no idea what that meant or why she was this way. We needed to know. And even more importantly, we needed to find out how we could make things easier for her and for us.
Whenever I had a minute, which of course wasn’t often, I would look for answers. I came across a number of articles on Dr. Sears’ website. I cannot begin to explain to you how it felt to read about his and his wife’s experience with their own high need child. For the first time, I felt like someone else knew exactly what I was going through.
Dr. Sears also provides a great list explaining the twelve features of a high need baby. The first time I read it, things made sense once again. We finally had found an answer that fit most if not all of her “symptoms.”
Do you suspect that you have a high need baby? If so, I encourage you to read Dr. Sears’ articles. Or do you already know you have a high need baby? How did you find out? Which of the typical features does your child have? Please share with us. It truly helps to hear from others.