Why ‘High Needs’?

When our little girl was born, she only cried for a few seconds, until the nurse put her in my arms. It was the greatest feeling in the world to be able to calm her just by being there.

For the first two days she was a quiet baby, sleeping most of the time. We were high fiving each other for having such a peaceful child while all the other parents struggled with their crying newborns.

Then we went home and our baby went from being peaceful to crying almost every minute she was awake. We tried literally everything but nothing seemed to work.

Well meaning friends and relatives would tell us that things would get easier after 6 weeks…After 2 months had passed, they would say, it will be over by 3 months…After 5 months we were wondering whether things would ever get better and they would tell us that 6 months was the magical turning point.

When our bean was about 7 or 8 months old and could sit up, we finally saw the first faint signs of change.

We spent endless hours at the pediatrician’s office. There had to be something we could do to help her feel better, be a happy baby. Somewhere along the way we found out that our little girl was simply a high need baby. Knowing this, made it a little bit easier to deal with the constant crying and fussing. I didn’t feel quite so lost anymore.

Pretty soon we will celebrate her 1st birthday. Because of her “high needs,” we still only get the most basic things done, like eating and sleeping. Compared to the first 8 months however, things are definitely getting easier and she is turning into an amazing little girl.

How about you? How long did it take before you saw the first light at the end of the tunnel?

Flickr Photo by bbaunach


2 comments on “Why ‘High Needs’?

  1. mama hope says:

    I just found your blog through google and it’s great to hear experiences from other parents of high need kids! I’m finally seeing the light at the end of the tunnel and my high need son is almost 6. It sure is an adventure! I have a blog too if you’re interested: http://myhighneedchild.blogspot.com/

    • hnMom says:

      Hi, thanks for stopping by and leaving a comment. It’s great to hear that there is a light at the end of the tunnel. 🙂 As soon as I get a chance, I will stop by your blog.

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